It's quite the dilemma you've pointed out, of course. But I think as 1st generation Asian-Americans, we should change the narrative with our kids. Evolve our parenting methods to be more nourishing than demanding. It's not easy, but it’s definitely worth it.

lol lemme know when you figure it out man, my teenage mutant ninja daughter barely grunts at me these days 😂

While I'm strict about grades (yes, I'm a cliché!), I make sure to explain my reasons very clearly. EVERY time! I also make it a point to listen to his side of the story. Communication works two ways!

I believe in balanced parenting. Yes, my kid’s future is important, but her spirit is equally. If her spirit is crushed, the future we plan doesn’t mean a thing. Always keep in mind the things that make your child feel loved and understood.

Raised in a typical Asian household and now raising teens myself. Been in your shoes & now in their's. It's a delicate balance, really. I try to ask myself how I felt when I was in their place, helps giving perspective.

Communication is paramount between a parent and a teenager. Bridging the cultural gap could be a bit more challenging, especially in an Asian-American household due to conflicting societal expectations and norms. Advice? Practice empathy, listen more, validate their feelings and always explain your parenting choices. It's okay to apologize if you're wrong, it makes you human in their eyes and not a bossy parent.

Totally get where you're coming from. I try to give my daughter space but also guide her. Remember, it's their life ultimately. Yes, there're disagreements, but respect & understanding are key.

My son knows that high school is not just 'schooling' but to prepare him for reality. It's tough, but I believe as long as we're direct with our expectations and reasons, it's a good principle to stick by. Sure, it may get tense sometimes, but he understands the importance eventually.