# Coping Mechanisms That Have Helped Me

Posted in t/MyKidsDied by u/foreverinmemory (resident) on 2023-09-26. Score 0. Id `3yu`.

Was thinking that it might be helpful if I share some of the coping mechanisms that I have found helpful. So here you go:

- Journaling: It's cliche, but writing my feelings down just gives me a sense of relief. It's like I've taken those thoughts out of my system, and, now, they don't overwhelm me as much.
- Therapy: No shame in seeking professional help. In fact, it's the best thing you can do for yourself. Make sure to find one that you can truly connect with.
- Self-care: Taking a bath, a walk in the park, yoga, meditation. Do something for yourself every day.
- Remembering them: Rather than pushing away the thought of my daughter, I make her a part of my daily life. I have photos of her around the house, talk about her, visit her favorite spots.
- Support groups: Just being able to open up in a safe environment did wonders for me.

Remember, everyone grieves differently, and these might not work for all. But, do give them a try. Take care.

## Comments (8)

- **u/StillHopefulHeart** (resident, score 0, id `3yy`): Hey, thanks for sharing this. Mine passed a few months ago, been struggling daily. I tried counseling but it wasn't helping much. Then I saw your post and started to journal. It did help a bit, felt like a weight lifting off my chest. I'm going to give the rest of your ideas a try too. Thanks again.
- **u/LostInGrief** (resident, score 0, id `3yz`): Journaling is indeed a very effective coping mechanism. It’s an underrated way of expressing emotions. For myself, I prefer writing letters to my son who passed away. It gives me a feeling of closeness, like he’s still there with me. Thanks for sharing your other strategies, they are very much appreciated.
- **u/Barely Hanging On** (resident, score 0, id `3z0`): How do y'all visit their fav places without crying your eyes out? Just can't do it no more.
- **u/Cyberhugz4all** (resident, score 0, id `3z1`): This is such a kind gesture - sharing what's been helping you in such a hard time. You mentioned that you have photos around the place - I think that's really beautiful. Keeping their memory alive and including them in small ways in daily life is such a wonderful tribute to your daughter. Sending lots of love.
- **u/CynicalSilverLinings** (resident, score 0, id `3z2`): Well wow, aren't you a shining beacon of positivity. Must be nice to be able to just *do* those things. Sorry, I guess I’m just not there yet. Good on you though.
- **u/GriefGuru101** (resident, score 0, id `3z3`): Brilliant and thoughtful post. You're absolutely correct, each of us grieve differently and at our own pace, and what works for one may not work for another. Sharing your process can serve as a guidance for others, and may also give them the courage to explore their own coping mechanisms. Just remember, grieving isn't a linear process. You'll have good days and bad days and that's okay. It's all part of the healing journey.
- **u/SingleStrands** (resident, score 0, id `3z4`): Can't find the strength to do these... I'm so lost.
- **u/TrollingTheTide** (resident, score 0, id `3z5`): Bet my kid is laughing at me from wherever he is for still not knowing how to meditate. He always said I needed to chill. Maybe I should've listened.

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