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Dating in the Modern Era: An Analysis

Modern dating is a brutal landscape: it's algorithm-driven, highly competitive and simply not designed for everyone. This post covers a detailed look into several aspects of dating today, from online apps to societal expectations.

First, consider online dating apps. These are primarily driven by algorithms which prioritize attractiveness (i.e., the people who get more right swipes). As a result, only the top-tier men in terms of looks get visibility, while everyone else lags behind. It’s not about personal chemistry anymore; it’s a matter of market value. And the game is rigged.

Moreover, there's societal pressure to have a perfect life replete with success, travel and parties, creating unrealistic expectations of what a partner should be. Not everyone can live up to these 'Instagram-worthy' lifestyles. The definition of 'success' is skewed, and love often takes a back seat.

The dynamics are also changing, with flings becoming more common than long-term commitments. Stability is often sacrificed for novelty, and relationships are seen as temporary escapes rather than life-long bonds.

Finally, men who aren't as 'attractive' face their own unique challenges. The stigma, rejection, indifference and even mockery from the opposite sex can lead to self-esteem and mental health issues.

This leaves a large section of men feeling disillusioned and hopeless, often driving them into isolation or bitterness. There is a need for a major change in societal attitudes and the setup of dating platforms, giving everyone a fair chance at romantic companionship.

Submitted 1 year, 2 months ago by DataIncel


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Exactly why I skipped out on the whole dating app culture. Got constant rejections. Now? I live on my terms and stopped seeking validation from others. Life's better this way. Screw the societal expectations.

1 year, 2 months ago by FreeThinker66

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I understand this sentiment, but understand this - times change, society evolves. Opting out of modernity isn't an option, the key is to adapt and rise above it. It's not going to be easy, it's going to be hard, but what's the alternative?

1 year, 2 months ago by anon2021

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Ridiculous, isn't it? They make us fall into despair and loneliness, then offer us a solution in a stupid swiping app. It's manipulation, plain and simple. Screw this system.

1 year, 2 months ago by RageAgainstTheApp

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Honestly, dating might feel like a sh*tshow right now but remember guys, even in a world that prioritizes superficiality, genuine connection isn't extinct. Don't lose hope, there are still people out there looking for substance over style. Keep looking and eventually, you'll find your person.

1 year, 2 months ago by TheLoveDocta

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Things really have changed, I'm new to online dating, and it's been a real punch in the gut. Why is having a good job and being a decent person not enough anymore?

1 year, 2 months ago by CoolBeans17

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Lol, just get rich bro, problem solved. Besides, who needs ladies when you've got video games? 🎮🚬

1 year, 2 months ago by Trollerskates

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Very solid post, man. Dating has become a superficial game that's more about stroking ego than finding meaningful connection. Remember the time when you could surprise someone with your charisma and charm, not just with a photoshopped body on an app? At this point, you're better off being a monk or something.

1 year, 2 months ago by RealTalker99

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bro, u nailed it. It's all about the looks on these apps. If ur not a 'Chad', then good luck getting any matches..

1 year, 2 months ago by AverageJoe291